Gay sperm donor ordered to pay child support for daughters 13 years later
2012-11-01 0:00

By Miles Brignall | TheGuardian

A gay man from Essex who donated his sperm to enable a lesbian couple to have two children, but who was never named on their birth certificate and had no role in their upbringing, is being forced by the Child Support Agency to pay for their support 13 years after the first child was born.

Mark Langridge, who has been with his partner for 16 years (and in a civil partnership for the last five), has called on the government to review the law after the CSA suddenly demanded that he start paying 26 a week for two children he technically fathered over a decade ago.

He has had no contact with the family since 2004, but the CSA said that he has to either pay up, or take a DNA test to show that he is not their natural father.

His story will send shivers down the spine of any man who was asked to donate their sperm by a childless woman in the 90s.

Back then it was impossible for women to use official sperm banks unless they had a male partner something that is no longer the case.

Changes to the law mean that if Langridge made the donation today in similar circumstances he wouldnt be financially liable for the children, and he has called for the law governing this area to be applied retrospectively. It is thought that there are several other men caught up in the same position.

His story starts in 1997 when he and his partner Shaun met a lesbian couple in Bliss nightclub in Southend. They became good friends and it soon became clear that one of the women was keen to have children.

As a result, in 1998, Langridge visited the Essex home of the mum-to-be, glass container in hand, and in a separate room the woman inseminated herself.

He says he only agreed to it after being given repeated assurances that the couple were financially secure and would need no financial input from him at any stage. He was told by the mother that he was not named on the childs birth certificate, and that the mothers story would be that shed had a fling and that the father had gone back to the US.

A year later she asked him again to donate, as she wanted a sibling for her child and thought it would be nicer to have the same father. He agreed and another girl was born in the spring of 2000. Again, he was told he was not named on the birth certificate.

A few years later his relationship with the mother and her female partner started to deteriorate, to the point where he no longer saw them or their daughters. He received the occasional letter from the girls, to which he replied.

What he did not know was that the lesbian couple split up, leaving one of the mothers with both children, who later sought support from the state.

One reason he felt willing to donate his sperm was that the couple had been promised a large sum of money which would give them a level of financial security. However, when that money came through they had separated.

He understands that the non-biological mother in the pair continues to live near the former family home, and to see the girls at weekends, in the same way, he says, any other divorced or separated parent would even though they were never civil partners. Yet the CSA is not chasing the other mother for support payments.

He says that over the years the mother threatened she would tell the CSA that he was the father, and in June this year he received a letter demanding he contribute to the childrens maintenance.

Because he is self-employed and lives on a low income as a part-time book-keeper and gardener, the 26 a week that has been calculated by the CSA is money, he says, he doesnt have. "Of course, if Id foreseen this all those years ago I would not have agreed to it. I just wanted to help a woman in need, and thought what harm could it do?" he adds. "I have told the CSA what happened but it has fallen on deaf ears. As far it is concerned, if Im the biological father I have to pay irrespective of the circumstances."

Guardian Money made attempts to track down the women but we were unsuccessful and, as a result, have taken the decision not to name or identify them.

A spokesman for the CSA confirmed the situation. "The law covering unlicensed sperm donation has always been very clear. Only anonymous sperm donors, at licensed centres, are exempt from being treated as the legal father of a child born as a result of their donation.

"This has never applied to men who donate sperm as part of a personal arrangement. Unless the child is legally adopted, both biological parents are financially responsible for their child by law, regardless of whether both their names are entered on to the birth certificate."

Natalie Gamble, founder of Natalie Gamble Associates, the UKs foremost experts on fertility law, says the law in this area changed a few years ago.

"Had the donation taken place after April 2009, or through a clinic, the law would have viewed his responsibility very differently. In that case he would not be deemed the father, provided the consenting couple to which he was making the donation were in a civil partnership, or his donation to the couple was through a licensed clinic. The fact that it was made on a private basis before that date means the law is very clear. He is considered the father."

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"Our only crime was agreeing to do someone a good turn. It is absurd that Im being chased for the money while the childrens other mother makes no contribution to their upkeep.

"How can that be right in modern Britain in which we supposedly have equality?" he asks.



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